"Peace is not an absence of war, it is a virtue, a state of mind, a disposition for benevolence, confidence, justice." - Benedict Spinoza.
Monday, February 28, 2011
Is It or Isn't It a Midlife Crisis?
Midlife crisis is an emotionally uncomfortable period that men and women go through between the age of 35 and 60. For most it is a time of question priorities and adjusting their lifestyle to fit better with their emotional needs.
For others midlife can bring about a true "crisis," one that causes them to stray outside the marriage for the affections and attention of a member of the opposite sex. They can question every choice they've made during the first half of their life. It is these folks who usually destroy their families and seem to completely change their character and belief system...post continued
Credit: About.com Divorce Support
Sunday, February 27, 2011
Great Quotes
"Being powerful is like being a lady. If you have to tell people you are - you aren't." - Margaret Thatcher.
Cheap Divorce
Divorce doesn’t have to lead to bankruptcy or a negative bank balance. It can be done inexpensively if you don’t rush through the process and make bad decisions. So, do some constructive planning and be sure not to make any of the following mistakes.
Saturday, February 26, 2011
"If it Weren’t so Cliché, I'd Think I Was Having a Midlife Crisis."
Nothing is cliche or trite about a midlife crisis. If you talk to middle-aged men and women who have experienced divorce, you will find that many of them will tell you their spouse changed overnight and became someone who discarded all that was once important to him for a new life that was all about what he wanted.
...Marriage Counselors
Marriage Counselors work with married couples to either help them handle marital discord or enhance the marital relationship. Marriage counselors are schooled in teaching couples conflict resolution skills and communication skills.
Friday, February 25, 2011
Warning: Your Spouse May be Hiding Money During Your Divorce!
Hiding money (or other assets) during a divorce is illegal and unethical. Never the less it’s much more common than you think. Your spouse may be trying to lower child support and/or alimony payments by hiding assets? Learn to identify the signs and uncover the hidden assets to protect you and your children. Get a FREE report revealing 5 common tactics commonly used to hide assets. Visit Divorce Ammo to get your FREE report now.
Thursday, February 24, 2011
Considering A Second Marriage – Giving Marriage Another Shot
Before making another step in marrying again, are you ready to experience again the consequences of living again with someone?
First, you must review the performance you made in your first marriage. You will ask to yourself, how could I be a better spouse? How come our union ended in divorce? What really went wrong? What weaknesses do I still need to work on? There are many questions remained in your first marriage. So you must able to answer first all unending questions before thinking to marry again.
Second, know what you’re really looking for in a partner. Be sure of the character traits you want. Don’t force yourself to settle down just because you’re lonely and in dire need of a companion. Finally, let time answer your questions. Enjoy your freedom, at least for a moment and give yourself much time in finding your potential mate before you say “I do” again.
In entering another chapter in your life, second marriage is a very challenging obligation for you. Many different things will about to change in your everyday life when you finally decided in remarrying again. Freedom of you will be lost again. You must be prepared of the new responsibility you will take and how you take it with readiness.
For marrying the second time around, there are lots of things to consider for making it a successful one. There are many situations you must able to fully understand in order to avoid again differences to your new spouse. These are the following:
•EXPECTATIONS FOR A HEALTHY MARRIAGE
In the beginning of the second marriage, problems will not occur instantly. As to a new couple, you are savouring your new found love. However, too many expectations may arise when one is to demanding to the other. This can be fixed if you can tell what your limitations are and what you can only do.
•REALISTIC APPROACH OF LOVE
This can be the best thing ever happened to the second marriage. Love must blossom unconditionally with respect. Give and take-this is for the equal releasing of feelings.
•POSITIVE ATTITUDE AND OUTLOOK IN LIFE
It may not be perfect at all, but happy in what you have. Do not force yourself in giving just to ensure the happiness on your spouse. You must be contended of the abilities and capabilities of your partner. Encourage your partner in giving his/her best in any other way.
•COMMUNICATING ABOUT FEELINGS
You must be open to what you really feel. Have the time to talk. This can help in keeping the flame alive. Listen to your partner. In listening you get what he/she wants to relate.
•UNDERSTANDING AND ACCEPTING DIFFERENCES
You may not be able to do everything, it’s doesn’t cost you to any problem. Understanding and accepting weaknesses are part of marriage. Humans are not perfect, so they intend to make wrong actions. You must respect the little things he/she made.
•MAKING DECISIONS AND SETTLING ARGUMENTS
These kinds of situations are very crucial. It can make or brake. In making decisions you must tell what you’re thinking. Possibly, accept your partner’s opinion. Settle your arguments in due time. Arguments are really mind busters. This may create gaps in the relationship.
•COMMON SPIRITUAL FOUNDATION AND GOAL
It may be good if both of you believe in the same religion doctrine. It can avoid debates on what are the right beliefs. A dream of a perfect family is one common goal. This can be done if both are very cooperative and serious. It can be a good foundation in the years to come. This can be the guiding force of making a successful relationship.
•COMBINING A FAMILY
What if your new spouse has a child or children in his/her previous marriage? You must know at least step-parenting skills. You are dealing emotions of their new environment. Be a good at them as they are also important to your spouse’s life. Accept them as you accepted your partner. Make them also one of your main priorities.
In committing your life again to someone, make it sure that you are really serious and prepared. Sacrifice and true love must be your agenda as for marriage it’s not taken for granted. So to speak, may your second marriage be a successful and fruitful one.
Best wishes and good luck.
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Do it Yourself Divorce
Step by step instructions on filing an original petition for divorce pro se, without an attorney.
Wednesday, February 23, 2011
Which Strategy Will You Employ During Divorce Settlement Negotiations?
Which divorce strategies do people and their divorce lawyers employ during divorces? There are only two social strategies that human beings use, according to Herb Guggenheim writing for CapitalM, the local Mensa newsletter. Those strategies are:
...Hat Tip To: About.com Divorce Support
Great Quotes
" I know that you believe you understand what you think I said, but I'm not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant." - Robert McCloskey.
Tuesday, February 22, 2011
Great Quotes
"People are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges." - J.F. Newton
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Collaborative Divorce
A collaborative divorce occurs when spouses are able to work out an agreement with going to divorce court.
Divorce – Does Marriage Counseling Work?
When considering marriage counseling instead of divorce, it’s difficult not to wonder whether seeing a marriage counselor will actually work. This article provides some objective information based on data obtained from a national survey of marriage and family counselors and their clients. Also presented are several interesting opinions provided by individuals who have actually been through marriage counseling and were asked to comment on whether or not seeing a marriage counselor proved effective in helping their relationship.
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An honest marriage counselor would agree that the motivation of a couple may be the single most important factor in determining the success of marriage counseling. It’s unlikely that even a brilliant counselor would be able to save a marriage where one spouse has already decided upon a divorce, and a mediocre marriage counselor can probably help a couple who are utterly committed towards making their marriage work. With this in mind, research has been made in an effort to determine, on a more scientific level, the effectiveness of couples counseling.
In an article published by Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, clients of marriage and family counselors from 15 different states reported on their experience with counseling. The findings indicated that marriage and family counselors treated a wide range of issues in relatively short-term fashion, couple and family therapy are briefer than individual therapy, and that client satisfaction and functional improvement are quite high.
[*] Specifically, of clients from 526 marriage and family counselors in 15 different states:
98.1% rated services good or excellent
97.1% got the kind of help they desired
91.2% were satisfied with the amount of help they received
93% said they were helped in dealing more effectively with problems
94.3% would return to the same therapist in the future
96.9% would recommend their therapist to a friend
97.4% were generally satisfied with the service they received
63.4% reported improved physical health
54.8% reported improvement in functioning at work
73.7% indicated improvement in children’s behavior
58.7% showed improvement in children’s school performance
[*] Excerpted from “Clinical Practice Patterns of Marriage and Family Therapists: A National Survey of Therapists and Their Clients”, Journal of Marital and Family Therapy–Volume 22, No. 1
While the above study provides raw data that supports the effectiveness of marriage and family counseling, a very interesting discussion on the question “Does Couples Counseling Work” from a public forum devoted to this topic offers a less clinical, but still positive view. Based on what seems to be a very honest and frank discussion among couples “who’ve been there,” the answer to the question of whether or not marriage counseling is effective is a positive one. Read these posts on the Berkley Parents Network.
Regardless of the studies and opinions which seem to support the effectiveness of marriage / couples counseling, there are those who question it’s effectiveness. An article on the about.com portal, had this to say:
The science of marital counseling is being studied in great detail these days. Research is showing that it is not as effective as people think, that women seem to get more from it than men, and that it might not have a lasting effect on the couple’s marriage.
What type of couple gets the most from couple therapy? The answer is young, non-sexist, still in love, open couples.
Which couples receive the least from therapy? Some factors that can make couple therapy unsuccessful include couples who wait too long before seeking help, and often one or the other is set on getting a divorce and is closed to any suggestions that may save the marriage.
Excerpted from the marriage.about.com portal
Unfortunately, the data supporting the above-mentioned research is not specifically cited in the article. The article seems to imply that couples who seek counseling because they want their relationship to work are more likely to succeed with marriage counseling than are those who enter into counseling with the (perhaps hidden) truth that they already want out when facing divorce.
Original: Divorce Advice For Men
Monday, February 21, 2011
Great Quotes
"The words "I am..." are potent words; be careful what you hitch them to. The thing you're claiming has a way of reaching back and claiming you." - A.L. Kitselman
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Child Custody Laws to Know for Preparing for Court
The laws about child custody can be complex and confusing. The laws change from state to state, and that just adds to the confusion. However, it is worthwhile for a divorced parent to invest some time to learning the laws that surround child custody. Knowing the laws helps to prepare you for court. Here are some of the laws found in almost every state that can help you be prepared for court.
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The first law that applies in every state that every divorced parent should know is that parents have equal rights to their children except in cases of proven abuse. This is important because a lot of divorced parents think they can’t get custody of their children or that they have to accept a custody agreement with less visitation time then they would like. Under the law, both parents have rights to the children. Work with the child’s other parent to come up with a parenting plan that works for both of you. Parents also always have a right to visitation (unless it is proved that visitation is harmful to the children) so don’t let your former spouse tell you otherwise. You have a right to see your kids during the process of working out your custody agreement and after.
The basic guideline for the court to make it’s decision is what is in the best interest of the child. This principle is in every state. You need to prepare for court by being able to show that whatever custody agreement or parenting plan that you present is in the best interest of the children. Always keep this thought in the back of your mind and refer back to often when you are in court.
When you are in the process of working out your custody agreement–before it becomes a custody order–don’t take your children out of the state. There are laws about this in almost every state. Some states allow you to take the child to another state if you get written permission from the child’s other parent and/or the court. It’s best to avoid it if possible though.
In fact, during the custody proceedings you want to be very careful about always communicating with the child’s other parent about what is going on. You don’t want the other parent to be able to call the police and accuse you of kidnapping. This is even true in abuse situations. Don’t take the kids and run because your ex can call the police on you. If you are leaving in this type of situation, get the police involved and consult an attorney so you make sure that you’re following all of the laws.
Take the time to acquaint yourself with how your state determines child support. Every state has different methods for calculation. Almost every state uses some type of time-share or overnight percentage to calculate the amount. Be familiar with these rules so you know if you’re going to be paying or receiving child support. You also will want to check the calculations so you feel secure that everything is correct.
It will help your child custody case if you learn the custody laws in your state. These are a broad overview of the laws that are found throughout the nation. There are lots of ways to learn the laws–you can ask your lawyer, inquire at the court, or go online and do some research. The information about the custody laws will help you prepare for going to court.
Learn more about child custody laws in your state and get more information about how to prepare for child custody court.
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Budgeting After Divorce
Chances are divorce left your budget a little lop-sided, with much less monthly income to use in your current lifestyle. Now is the time to re-evaluate your budget, not months later when you’ve gotten deeper into debt and your credit has been ruined.
Sunday, February 20, 2011
Saturday, February 19, 2011
Daily Quote
"Without friends, no one would choose to live, though he has all other goods." - Aristotle
Dating After Divorce – When Is It Too Soon to Date After a Divorce?
Making the choice to begin dating after divorce may cause lots of emotions for you. The thought can be exciting, scary, happy or even sad. But what about the feelings your kids may be having about it?
One of the most important aspects to keep in mind when considering your children’s reactions is how long you have been divorced.
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This has a huge impact on kids. Divorce research has shown time and time again, that kids take much longer to deal with all of the changes that come about as a result of a divorce than you are. By the time you’re thinking about dating again, they may still be reeling from the divorce itself.
Your dating makes this whole divorce thing much more real. Before then, you and their other parent just aren’t living in the same house. From a kid’s perspective that means there’s still the possibility that things may change and go back to “normal” (even though you’ve told them hundreds of times it won’t).
Once they know you’re going out with somebody else, it puts the finality of the divorce into much greater clarity. It’s NOT just that you aren’t in the same house now. It’s that somebody else may “replace” their other parent.
If this happens too soon, it can be overwhelming for kids. They are still grieving the loss of their old family and it feels to them that you’re already trying to replace it with another family. Even if it’s just a first date with someone, it will feel this way to kids.
Another aspect that complicates things is whether an affair is what broke up the marriage. If you begin dating too soon, kids may start wondering if that was the reason for the divorce. This will not start you and your new partner off on the right foot with your kids.
Because of all these reasons, be prepared for your kids to be upset to some extent about your dating. Does that mean you shouldn’t begin dating? Not necessarily. But I will offer these questions to you if you’re dating less than 4 months after your divorce is final (the keyword in that sentence is FINAL):
1. Why now?
2. What are you hoping for by dating again?
3. What have YOU done for yourself to help heal after your divorce?
4. How well are you getting along with your ex-spouse?
If the answers to these revolve around fear of being alone, not really feeling the need to look back at the previous marriage and there still being a lot of conflict between you and your ex-spouse, then I’m going to suggest waiting awhile before dating. Not only are your kids not ready, but neither are you.
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Abuse Checklist
Are you being abused? Look over the following questions. Think about how you are being treated and how you treat your partner. Remember, when one person scares, hurts or continually puts down the other person, it's abuse.
Friday, February 18, 2011
Does Mediation Make Divorce Easier?
Meditation during divorce is a way of finding solutions to issues such as child custody and spousal support. It is an alternative to going to divorce court. During mediation, both parties to the divorce and their attorneys meet with a court appointed third party. This third party, the "mediator" assists the parties in negotiating a resolution to their divorce.
...Original: About.com Divorce Support
Daily Quote
"The man who is swimming against the stream knows the strength of it." - Woodrow Wilson
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Thursday, February 17, 2011
Collaborative Divorce In Phoenix
Collaborative divorce in Phoenix, and across the United States, is a newer concept. While not widely used, it may be the right choice when determining which avenue to follow during the dissolution of marriage. For those looking for an amicable end, it may just be the one and only way you can stay sane and handle all the stress.
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Marriage was once considered a sacred bond created by God and indissoluble by mortals. Even the king of England, Henry VIII, didn’t have the power or influence to have his marriage annulled, thus his reasoning for leaving the church and making his own. Today, even religious people have far more pragmatic and less firm and idealistic ideas of what marriage is. Socially, marriage was once an indispensable device for joining families and forming political units or organized households that conducted business and raised children. Now, America is far more individualistic, and so the institution of marriage is less essential and unbreakable.
This has two related effects. Since marriages aren’t relied on socially and since Americans believe that individuals should have as much power over their own lives as possible, people who aren’t happy with their marriages end them. Around half of marriages end in divorce, and about forty percent of first marriages end in divorce. In a more positive way, however, divorces that do occur are far less devastating than they once were. Year after year this rings true. In Arizona, for example, divorce rates skyrocketed when collaborative divorce became popular and is still rising steadily.
Mediated annulments or dissolution of marriage is a practice being adopted by more and more law firms. Collaborative divorce is a non-adversarial method of ending a marriage where the lawyers and clients work together to find solutions, rather than disputing every possible issue in court. Traditionally, clients disagree on issues such as dividing assets, child custody, and child support rates. These issues are generally settled in court by a judge after each side has argued its case. It was, and often still is, considered standard procedure to attempt to get everything you can without regard to fairness. Some spouses use the court system to hurt the other spouse in whatever way the judge deems permissible.
Mediated dissolution is settled out of court. Lawyers and Attorneys are still used because divorce law is very complicated and individual divorces generally have their own peculiar issues and circumstances. Each client’s lawyer works with the other, rather than arguing against them in court. In the end a solution, satisfactory to each party and to the law, is reached.
Amicable divorce is possible today in part because of the popularity of the dissolution of marriage and that it has become somewhat commonplace. Ten or twenty years ago many married people would have considered it unthinkable until married life became absolutely unbearable. By this time, they have come to despise their spouse, and this rancor plays itself out in the splitting up process. Collaboration is impossible.
Today, on the other hand, married people tend to get divorced as soon as a marriage seems unworkable or perhaps just inconvenient. Divorcees are more interested in making a quick, clean, and inexpensive break than in arguing and hurting the former spouse.
Collaborative divorce in Phoenix has risen steadily in recent years for good reason. Instead of having your dissolution become devastating, emotionally and financially, it can be quick, easy and less painful than it has to be. While it may not be the right choice for you, it can work if both parties are interested. Just keep an open mind and the rest should come.
Andy west is a writer for Out of Court Solutions, dedicated to assisting couples interested in quick and inexpensive collaborative divorce in Phoenix resolution. For more information please visit Outofcourtsolutions.com.
Article Source: Collaborative Divorce In Phoenix: The Trends and Changes
Great Quotes
"It is better to suffer wrong than to do it, and happier to be sometimes cheated than not trusted." - Samuel Johnson
Wednesday, February 16, 2011
Could Your Divorce be Responsible for Health Problems?
A study scheduled to be published in the September issue of the Journal of Health and Social Behavior, analyzes data from nearly 9,000 adults nationwide, ages 51 to 61, and finds those who had been divorced or widowed suffered 20 percent more chronic health conditions, such as heart disease, diabetes or cancer, than individuals who were currently married.
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"You can't depend on your eyes when your imagination is out of focus." - Mark Twain
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Taking Care of your Children after a Divorce – Part 2
Communication is very important when it comes to caring for your children after a divorce. Make sure your children feel safe enough to come to you to talk. If you break down in tears every time the subject of the divorce comes up, they will clam up. While you may get emotional during the discussions you have to be strong. If you are positive about everything turning out fine they will believe in it as well.
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Be as honest as you can about what took place and why. Children will have various questions about the divorce. Some what to know why it happened overall such as why the family had to deal with it. Others want to know the specific reasons why their parents aren’t together. Make sure you fully understand what your child is really asking before you start to answer.
You do need to do your very best to get along with the other parent. You want to make it possible for both of you to take care of the children. In fact, their support can help you to have the personal time you need. They may be willing to assist you financially as well if you are struggling to make ends meet.
It can be hard to take care of your children after a divorce. Yet many parents will tell you that is all that got them through such a difficult time in their lives. They focused on being strong for their children and there were days that got them out of bed. It can be hard to go from a two parent household to one, but many people are successfully doing just that every day after a divorce.
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Divorce Process
During mediation parties to the divorce and their attorneys meat to discuss any conflicts they may have and try to come to an agreement that meets the needs of both.
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Tuesday, February 15, 2011
How to Identify and Care For Your Emotional Needs During Divorce
Your make-up determines your emotional needs. It goes without saying that some folks are "needier" than others. The key to getting emotional needs met is the ability to identify your needs and figuring out how to get those needs met. If you are someone who needs to feel accepted, admired, appreciated and fulfilled only you know what you need to do in life to have those needs met. If your marriage played a large role in meeting your needs, it is up to you to find new ways outside your marriage to fulfill those emotional needs...post continued
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Custody and Support
Missouri Child Custody and Support Guidelines
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Monday, February 14, 2011
Taking Care of your Children after a Divorce – Part 1
It can be scary to think about how you will take care of your children after a divorce. There are going to be many changes on the horizon for everyone to deal with. Yet you need to be confident that you can take care of them. Even if you have to turn to friends and family members for emotional and financial support you can do it. Taking care of your own needs is vital as you can’t successfully care for your children if you aren’t okay yourself.
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Don’t be too stubborn to take advantage of the help that is offered. Ask for what you need from those that do offer to be there for you. It may be someone to listen to you or to care for your children for a few hours. You may need to seek professional assistance to help you with your emotions. Don’t be afraid to seek counseling for all of you if you feel it could be beneficial.
Establishing a solid budget for the new family structure is important as well. You need to know you will be able to keep a roof over their heads, clothes on their backs, and food on the table. Cutting out unnecessary expenses is going to have to be part of the plan for most people that have just been divorced. In time your finances should improve and you will be able to add in some comforts again for everyone to enjoy.
Some parents worry that their children are going to miss out on material things due to the financial changes a divorce can bring. While it may take the entire family some time to adjust to such changes, everyone will be just fine. The truth is that as long as their basic needs are being met they will get by. In fact, it may serve as a lesson that teaches them to appreciate what they do have.
Think of cost effective things you can do as a family. You may spend the afternoon at the park or going for a walk. Play board games or watch a movie together. When money is tight you can all do things that allow you more time to bond instead of being an additional expense for the family.
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Sunday, February 13, 2011
How to Obtain a Divorce in Michigan
Marriage is described as the personal union of individuals where you vow to love honor and obey, but sadly for reasons that are personal to the individuals, marriage often breaks down, bringing in grounds for divorce.
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Divorce is based on state law so depending on which state you live in you may be filling for absolute, limited or no fault divorce. In the state of Michigan the divorce law that is most commonly seen is a no fault divorce. This type of divorce doesn’t require any proof of fault from either party involved; all you have to do is demonstrate that the relationship is no longer viable. Common reasons for no-fault divorce include incompatibility, irreconcilable differences, and irremediable breakdown of the marriage. This type of divorce can be forced on the non-initiating spouse even if it is against their wishes.
In order to start a divorce procedure in Michigan you must live there for 180 days before you file your complaint for divorce. If you are the spouse that initiates the divorce procedure you are known as a plaintiff. If you are the spouse who doesn’t file for divorce you are known as the defendant.
So how long will a divorce procedure take within Michigan? If there are no children involved in your divorce procedure then it is estimated your divorce procedure will take 60 days to complete. If there are children involved then you cannot be granted a divorce for at least six months. It should be noted that these times are just a rough guide and more often than not these times should be doubled.
A divorce is based primarily on a lot of documents that are needed in order for the divorce procedure to begin. The first of these documents is known as a summons; this is a document that notifies your spouse that a divorce procedure has begun and that they have 21 days to respond. Once the summons has been sent you will move onto dealing with the complaint, which is the document that officially starts the divorce and contains numerous details such as:
• Yours and your spouses name, including maiden names
• The names and date of birth of any children that you have
• When and where you were married as well as the date of your separation
• Your length of residence in the country and state
• The grounds for divorce
• Detailed of any property
After the summons and complaint has been served to the defendant it is the defendants job to file an answer to the complaint; if this happens the answer is filed and the divorce case becomes contested; however if the defendant fails to deliver a reply to the complaint the case becomes uncontested. Another option that the defendant has after receiving the complaint is to produce a counter claim, which the plaintiff then has to answer.
Once the complaint has been sorted you will move onto trying to come to a settlement. If a settlement cannot be reached the case will then be tried. After this comes the most important document to do with your divorce; the judgment, your final decree, which is what grants you your divorce.
The one piece of advice that I can offer you when it comes to obtaining your divorce, whether you are the plaintiff or the defendant is to find a good divorce attorney as they will be able to help you with all aspects of your divorce, especially if things start to become difficult.
Jannelle Zawaideh is a Michigan Annulment Attorney and a Divorce Attorney In Michigan. If you are in need of a Oakland County Divorce Lawyer contact her for a FREE Consultation.
Article Source: How to Obtain a Divorce in Michigan
Original: Divorce Advice For Men
Saturday, February 12, 2011
Devising a Parenting Plan can help Children with the Issue of Divorce – Part 2
Yet when it comes time to sit down and go over the divorce parenting plan information it needs to be just the two parents involved. Sometimes the new spouses or significant others of them are also invited to join in. This depends on the relationships that all involved have with the children though.
There will also be changes to the parent’s schedule due to work and other commitments. Don’t have the attitude that it isn’t your problem as that outlook on it will just hurt your children. Try to understand that the other parent is doing all they can to have time with the children. While you may not enjoy that they have to go with them, it is very important for your children to forge a quality relationship with both of you.
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Once a new divorce parenting plan has been determined, the children can be told of what will take place by both parents. This way they don’t feel like one parent defeated what they wanted to see put into place. When both parents can show a united front, it also gives the parenting plan more credibility.
For children, a solid divorce parenting plan helps to relieve their anxiety. They know what they can expect from both of their parents. They understand that while their parents won’t be together, they will be well cared for. They aren’t going to be worried about what the future has in store for them. They will also love the fact that they get to spend quality time with both of their parents.
In addition to letting everyone know what can be expected, a divorce parenting plan can cut down on the amount of conflict that takes place between the two parents. All of the children will benefit from this arrangement as well. It can certainly help to reduce the negative aspects of a divorce for the entire family.
Source: Divorce Advice For Men
Thursday, February 10, 2011
Nine Reasons To Settle Instead Of Go To Divorce Court
Nine reasons to end the conflict and settle your divorce without going to divorce court.
1. You Might Lose
Half of the people that go to divorce court lose. In every case, there is a winner and a loser. And, even if you win, you may lose, because of attorney fees and other costs, like the lasting acrimony and damage that a trial can cause.
...Devising a Parenting Plan can help Children with the Issue of Divorce -Part 1
A parenting plan can help children with the issue of divorce in many ways. Even very young children who can’t read it or interpret it learn about consistency. It helps them to learn to trust their parents as well as other adults. There are many emotions that children of different ages go through when a divorce is in progress. Identifying them and getting a plan into motion early on is very important.
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The biggest mistake for many parents when it comes to developing a workable parenting plan is that there is too much emotion involved in it. This needs to be written with logic ruling instead of emotions. This way the parenting plan can be referred to when things get tough on either side of the parenting. A parenting plan can be good for any length of time as long as it continues to fit the objectives of what you both wish to accomplish with your children.
A parenting plan needs to cover all the elements of issues that both parents think are important. You need to be willing to do what is in the best interest of the children instead of holding out for what you want. Too many parenting plans never get off the ground because people can’t agree on anything. They are too busy trying to control the situation or to even get revenge on the other parent to really focus on the children.
If that is the case you may need to get a mediator involved to help with it. This can be attorneys for both parties, a counselor, or someone who specializes in divorce cases involving children. They can help the parents stay on track with the development as well as the implementation of the parenting plan.
Regular evaluations of the parenting plan need to take place. This is because as the children get older new issues will come into play. Others will be a thing of the past though such as childcare arrangements. Listen to the arguments your children make when it comes to the divorce parenting plan as well.
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Conflict With Ex Spouse
Dealing with a difficult ex-spouse can be very discouraging, frustrating and defeating.
Wednesday, February 9, 2011
Prevent Divorce
From my experience couple trying to Stop Divorce are faced with many challenges, some of these issues and challenges are often very surprising. One of the people who visited my site sent me an email saying that I would not believe how easy it was to work on some parts of the prevent divorce issue, and that the hardest thing he and his wife faced was breaking the old habits, changing the way they conducted themselves, the automatic pilot that drives relationships into walls.
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This is what this article is about, trying to notice the point in which you lose control over your target (preventing and stopping your divorce) and let the auto pilot drive your relationship into a difficult spot. Shedding light on a few points, I hope that you will be better equipped the next time you are facing an argument or even a discussion.
First point, is almost too easy, the blame game. How easy is this? Now honestly, think about it, almost everyone does it, and you have done it many times before, you play this stupid little game, get yourself wrapped around this idea and lose control, not only escalating the situation but getting into a mindset of blaming and anger, this would not help you, or anyone for that matter, achieve anything. What you really need to do is examine the situation, think about what you did, or what you usually do, and what your spouse does, and be as objective as you can. Make a table with the things you both do, never forget to notice the things that you do wrong, because everyone does something wrong, and admit it, to yourself and to your spouse.
Second, the “you are overreacting” sentence. How helpful was that?, men tend to say this to woman a lot, but I saw a few woman do that too, and this is a nasty one, not only do you judge your spouse, you are also criticizing their response, like you have any right to. Think about it for a moment, I am sure you will understand that this is a terrible thing to say and that in no case should you even consider saying this, take things at face value, if your partner is angry, focus on why he or she got to this situation and deal with it, don’t push it away and award the what you think is an exaggerated reaction level to your partner.
Children or family issues, this is an extremely delicate issue. Using children as weapons in arguments and fights is something a lot of people do, a classic example of losing control and saying things you live to regret for a long time. A clear stop sign, if you can see it while you are angry and upset, in a middle of an argument, try your best to avoid using your children or other family members in fights.
One last point which is the general advice I can give, when discussing things with your spouse, or even when arguing or fighting, try and make the situation even, try and balance the power and the objectivity of the situation. This means that no one has clear control over the divorce discussion, that it is a free – equal power debate between two people and not a lecture or verbal beating to one or another person.
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Sex After Divorce
So you’re planning to go out on a date– how exciting! Whether it’s with someone new or someone you’ve already seen a few times, your adrenaline is probably pumping; dating and sex after divorce can nerve-wracking!
Tuesday, February 8, 2011
Monday, February 7, 2011
What Determines Post-Divorce Success?
To rebuild your life after a divorce you may have to find a new home, build new friendships, start a new career or learn to live life as a single parent. How successful you are will depend on how well you were able to deal with the stress generated by your divorce.
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Reasons People Stay
What motivates a person to stay in a relationship that causes them emotional and physical pain?
Sunday, February 6, 2011
Sex After Divorce
So you’re planning to go out on a date– how exciting! Whether it’s with someone new or someone you’ve already seen a few times, your adrenaline is probably pumping; dating and sex after divorce can nerve-wracking!
Saturday, February 5, 2011
Dating And Your Children
When parents date, it creates anxiety in children. The changes and losses they have gone through often cause them to feel insecure.
Friday, February 4, 2011
Divorce Preparation: Documents Your Divorce Attorney Will Need
Once you've come to the decision to divorce you need to start gathering documentation that will be needed during the divorce process. Whether you use an attorney or go the Pro Se route, the following is a list of all documents that you will need to give your divorce attorney:
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Warning: Your Spouse May be Hiding Money During Your Divorce!
Hiding money (or other assets) during a divorce is illegal and unethical. Never the less it’s much more common than you think. Your spouse may be trying to lower child support and/or alimony payments by hiding assets? Learn to identify the signs and uncover the hidden assets to protect you and your children. Get a FREE report revealing 5 common tactics commonly used to hide assets. Visit Divorce Ammo to get your FREE report now.
Midlife Crisis Spouse
Setting boundaries with your midlife crisis spouse means knowing when to say “NO.” You will not allow your spouse to abuse, control or manipulate you. You will not allow your spouse to draw you into their midlife crisis.
Thursday, February 3, 2011
Kentucky Divorce Laws
What you need to know about Kentucky divorce laws.
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Wednesday, February 2, 2011
Repressed Emotions
If you are living in an abusive relationship, you’ve learned to repress your emotions. Repressing emotions can cause physical illness. Stuffing your feelings can cause depression, chronic fatigue, cancer and many other serious illnesses.
Tuesday, February 1, 2011
Divorce Overview
Divorce is not just a termination.
It’s a beginning
Maybe your friends of the family or people at work will be going through its own set of changes as you face others with your new civil status. Divorce may be defined as a termination but it is the start of new beginnings and the introduction of a number of changes in both you and your children’s lives.
Is divorce for you
Before that, if you are reading this and are in the process of considering divorce, take a moment to think about several assertions. If you believe that you can accept the following assertions as true in your marital relationship, give the idea of divorcing your mate a second thought.
• I believe I still have love for my mate.
• I am prepared to seek counseling or marital therapy for the sake of the relationship.
• I want to transform for the better.
• I value openness and truthfulness in my relationship with my mate.
• It doesn’t matter who’s right or wrong, what matters is that I am willing to seek forgiveness or forgive when needed.
However, if you cannot see yourself in the mentioned assertions, read on to gain a basic understanding of divorce.
There have been misunderstandings as to how divorce and annulment differ. As mentioned, divorce is a termination of the marriage contract. Annulment, on the other hand, deems the marriage null and void, as if one were never married in the first place.
In certain areas where divorce has stigma attached to it due to the country’s dominant religious belief, annulment is more popular.
The Popularity of divorce
Most developed countries, despite certain religious stigma, divorce is widely acceptable. The popularity of divorce in developed countries has been on the up rise since the 20th century.
Countries like the United States, United Kingdom, Canada, and South Korea, have all been affected by this popularity of divorce.
However, in the Philippines and Malta, divorce is illegal. Even if divorce is legal in Japan, the country has been able to maintain a distinctly low divorce ratio.
Because of the Catholic Church’s influence, a number of countries in Europe have banned divorce. As a result, people in these locations seek out other areas in order to get divorced.
Are You Using the Family Court System to Abuse Your Ex?
Dr.Karin Huffer, a marriage and family counselor in Las Vegas has identified a new disorder for a nation already reeling from chronic fatigue syndrome, Internet addiction disorder and other new-age afflictions.
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