Monday, January 31, 2011
Divorce Financial Analyst
Sunday, January 30, 2011
Why Women Cheat
Saturday, January 29, 2011
Blended Family Discipline
Friday, January 28, 2011
ALL ABOUT 411 PAIN
I did not write this article, it is from the Broward Palm Beach Times, but very interesting information about this medical and lawyer referral service which is now operating all over the State of Florida, with lots of coverage in Pinellas and Hillsborough Counties, on Television and Billboards. Read the article and come to your own conclusions, I will reserve on my opinion at this time.
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The Financial Benefits Of a Legal Separation Agreement
If you are having marital problems and have decided to separate, I encourage you to have a divorce attorney draw up and both spouses sign a legal separation agreement. Please be aware that not all states recognize legal separation. In those states, that do the process should be smooth. Smooth as long as your and your spouse come to terms easily.
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Thursday, January 27, 2011
Wednesday, January 26, 2011
Your Child Custody Agreement: Can Child Custody Software Help You?
The decisions you have to make while creating a child custody agreement can seem endless. Along with answering the basic questions with the schedule like who spends what holidays with the kids, how do you allocate weekend time, etc., you have to decide what information and resources you use to help you create your schedule. On top of this you are dealing with the issues from the divorce and trying to make decisions there. Because you’re so busy and, let’s face it, divorce isn’t cheap, you want to make sure that you are spending your time and money on resources that are worth it. Many parents have heard and wondered about the child custody agreement software programs that have been developed in the past few years. Are the programs worth your money and time? Here are three questions to consider if you want to know if child custody software could help you with your child custody agreement.
1. Do you and your ex agree on your agreement? Everyone has a different relationship with their ex. If both of you are able to put aside your differences and work together for the best schedule then that’s great. However, not everyone has that ideal situation. If you and your ex find it difficult to work together a child custody software might be beneficial. A software package has the advantage of feeling objective. Both of you can input your information and feel that the software isn’t bias (you probably don’t feel that way toward your ex’s lawyer). Child custody software programs can also print out your child custody agreement calendar so both parents have ready access to one. The custody software can make it easier to work together on your child custody agreement.
2. Are you making a custom child custody agreement schedule? More and more today people are moving away from the set child custody agreement schedule and creating custom schedules with more flexibility. If this is what you want you may want to look into purchasing a custody software to help you. The custody software has the advantage of being able to easily make a lot of changes without having to count days and go through the whole calendar. The software should also calculate the time each parent has with the child–and that would be hard to do if you have a shifting schedule. If you have a pretty set schedule with few variances than the software may not be that much help.
3. Are you paying or receiving child support? The amount of child support paid and received is based on the time-share percentage that each parent has with the child. So, you want to make sure that you have the correct time-share percentages calculated so that you’re paying or receiving the correct child support. A child custody software helps with this because the software can easily figure out the exact percentages. It is harder to go through the calendar for a year and calculate that yourself.
Because you have so many things to think about as you’re creating your child custody agreement, the litmus test question for buying the software is: will it be beneficial? If it will help you with your child custody agreement then it is probably worth it to get the software. Because, the sooner you resolve the issues concerning the child custody agreement, the sooner you can put the agreement into place and spend quality time with your child.
Find out if child custody & visitation software can help you with your child custody agreement.
Article Source: Your Child Custody Agreement: Can Child Custody Software Help You?
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Legal and Joint Legal Custody
Is Legal Separation the Alternative You are Looking For?
Answer: Unlike divorce, a legal separation does not put an end to the marriage. During a legal separation, you have a court order that outlines the rights and responsibilities of each spouse while they are living apart. You remain legally married while choosing to live separate lives. Issues that can be addressed in a separation agreement are division of assets and debts, child custody and child support, visitation schedules and...post continued
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Tuesday, January 25, 2011
Life After Divorce
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Monday, January 24, 2011
What You’ll Want to Know about Divorce Lawyers, Domestic Violence and Child Custody
The family court nightmare leading up to my exile has lots of people scratching their heads wondering what actually happened. I detail all of it in All But My Soul: Abuse Beyond Control, but the whole story is so heart-wrenching that many people are blown away before they fully digest the final ploy.
And knowing this final ploy is an important piece that could best benefit you if you are headed to family court with domestic violence in your relationship. There’s a lot you can learn from this story to hold your own and save your own.
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After 11 years of family violence, I was in family court wherein I received four Orders of Protection for my children and me over four solid years. However, all awhile we lived under the blanket of “protection” my then-husband was granted permission to destroy our contact with one another.
Here’s What Happened in a Nutshell.
He got a civil finding of abuse because of the court-documented abuse to our three minor children and to myself. He was removed from the marital residence and given supervised visitation. But that didn’t stop the domestic abuse. No, that just made for a different avenue to prevail…to save face and to regain control over the family.
There was no custody battle as he was not a candidate for custody because of the court- documented abuse. There were no findings of my being unfit because none of the psychiatrists could or would label me with any psychopathology. My ex was the one blessed with the psychiatric diagnosis.
So how the hell did they pull it off? Grab a cup of coffee. Hold onto your chair and learn this classic ploy.
To “prepare” for a so-called custody battle, the court removed the children from both parents to take them out of the “stress of the litigation.” That meant that the children were removed from my custody, as I was the custodial parent during the entire four years of the proceedings (in which nothing was actually litigated).
Then, when my counsel pointed out that you cannot legally remove children from a parent NOT found to be unfit, the judge consented to reverse his ruling. But the “reversal” was another ploy.
Now a true reversal of a ruling would be to give them back to me as they were taken from me, but instead they were simply handed over to my ex. Thus, they were essentially removed from my custody WITHOUT a hearing.
Then to add insult to injury, I was repeatedly denied access to my children as prescribed by our visitation schedule. Upon my showing up to visit with my children (with a supervisor mind you), my kids where nowhere to be found.
With each of these interferences of my visitation, I filed a complaint and the police where in shock…mainly because I was being treated like the criminal, yet had all of the official court documentation of victimization to my children and to me.
Technically, the third compliant of interference of visitation, is met with a six-month prison sentence. But the police were given word from the divorce court to NOT interfere. You see the civil proceeding PREVENTED any criminal protection of my boys and me.
Now you might wonder why this was done. The Judge’s wife was a physician at the same hospital as my ex-husband, which was the hospital where I was bringing my children and myself for physical injuries resulting from family violence by their father/my ex.
So from the get go, I was on the wrong side of the politics in this case. However, we were not successful in getting this judge to recuse’ himself from the case due to this obvious conflict of interest. And compounding this was the fact that there were no checks and balances to employ, as he was also the presiding judge in the district.
Now Here’s the Climax of the Ploy.
After fully denying my access to my children and legal remedy for this violation, I fled the state at the recommendation of the domestic violence shelter. They obviously saw the next ploy coming.
My final exit was met with the court placing a body attachment on me for not showing up in court to fight over the marital residence where I had been residing. Now normally this would result in a default judgment giving the house to my ex, which at that point I was fine with. Instead, I’m told, after the fact, that an officer was sent out to fetch Jeanne. You know what I mean. Fortunately for me, I was already gone.
Then there was the luring back period. I was told I could have “consideration” for contact with my children if I yielded to my ex’s desire that I be placed in a psychiatric hospital for a minimum of a 30-day psychiatric evaluation.
But my belief about this is that you never surrender your mental health to someone who is threatening to take it away all under the guise of bargaining especially when your kids are a few years from being of age. My oldest was months from turning 16. And my ex’s promise was to “___ ____” me using my own profession, as he would routinely threaten. This was to be my punishment for coming out with the abuse in our family.
And, most importantly, I believe you never surrender your mental health to someone’s whim when you are the one with the clean bill of mental health by all the evaluating psychiatrists, psychologists and custody evaluators over the last four years. Especially in light of the fact that the custody evaluator has declared you to be the psychological parent of the children and your soon-to-be ex is “using the system to batter you and your children.”
Now with my unwillingness to allow my soon-to-be ex to compromise my mental health, he then has a way to say to my kids… if she really loved you, she would simply cooperate and allow me to hospitalize her. Needless to say, I’m sure you can imagine what this did to my kids.
The blessing here is that I had the cogency (as one attorney noted after the fact) to recognize the ploy that leaves women destroyed on psychotropic medications for life. I managed to keep my sanity and rise above to re-unite with my kids after they became 18. However, the downside is the pollution to them in the interim. The upside is our love is a testament to the power of a parent-child connection.
If you are in family court, learn to spot the politics and block the legal psychiatric ploys before they spiral out of control as they did in our case. When you can rise above the tide, you can prevent much of the legal domestic abuse and you can prevail.
If you play your hand right you can walk away from this nightmare with your kids in your arms (without missing a soccer game) and your sanity still intact.
For more information about the domestic violence and family court, see Legal Domestic Abuse: How to Successfully Navigate the System. Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D. helps people recognize, end and heal from domestic abuse at home and in court. Copyright 2009 Jeanne King, Ph.D. http://www.preventabusiverelationships.com/legal_domestic_ab use.php
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Jewish Divorce and the "Beit Din"
Under Jewish divorce law only a man can commence a divorce action. Orthodox communities follow this law strictly and only recognize a divorce action if it is begun by the husband. Conservative and Reform Jewish communities feel that although the Talmud says it is the husband who must commence the Get (sefer k'ritot), the wife may begin the process of the Get by convening a rabbinical court (beit din).
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Fear Of Intimacy
Sunday, January 23, 2011
Ohio Divorce Laws
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Saturday, January 22, 2011
Child Custody Advice For Fathers
Fathers involved in child custody cases can face a much tougher road to winning their case. Even though the court system has become more balanced in their custody appointments between men and women, there is still an inherent prejudice that fathers often face.
Mothers tend to appeal more to the court for three basic reasons. The first one is the societal influences that say a child receives better care with their mother. Secondly, the court tends to view both the mother and child as dependents, while the father is seen as an independent. Finally, motherhood in itself is deemed a natural instinct and occurrence, while fatherhood is more participatory. While all of these court influences are debatable at best, the fact that they have been ingrained in the roots of our culture makes them very prominent.
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For a father to succeed in winning child custody, his approach must concentrate on proving that his guardianship is the best option for the child’s growth and development. While a mother may be able to win a close case based solely on the influences discussed earlier, the father typically has to provide more substantial evidence. For this reason, it is important for dad to build an indisputable appeal with documentation.
There are several items that a male custody candidate should be tracking throughout the custody process. The most important is the amount of quality time spent with their children. By keeping an accurate log of the dates, times, and activities, the father will have be able to prove his involvement in the child’s daily life. In cases where the mother makes visitation difficult or impossible, it should be noted how many times the father was denied visitation. Participation and intent are keys to the courts decision, and it is essential for dad to demonstrate his desire to be involved with the child’s life.
Tracking financial participation is also a good way to demonstrate how much input the father has in the daily routine of the child. This includes costs associated with food, clothing, medical care, and extracurricular activities. Even if the father makes payments directly to the mother instead of buying the needed items, it can still be tracked as an expense. Having an accurate log of financial cost expenditures will not only help provide evidence, but the information can also be used in child support hearings.
The final type of evidence that fathers should collect is any observations of suspicious behavior from the mother. This can include drug and alcohol abuse, adulterous behavior, work performance, and influencing of the child through bribery and slander. All of these behavior patterns could drastically change the outcome of a child custody case, but the court will not accept any accusations without documented proof. In some cases, this may require the hiring of child investigator to secure indisputable evidence.
Fathers typically have to prove their worth as a custody candidate in a more convincing fashion then mothers. This makes it important for dad to keep accurate records of both his involvement with the child as well as the activities of the mother. Fathers need to be able to show that their parenting influence and living situation provides a distinct advantage for the positive growth and development of the child.
You should never rely solely on a lawyer to win your custody case for you. Visit ObtainCustody.com for more resources on how to win child custody.
Article Source: Child Custody Advice For Fathers
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Friday, January 21, 2011
How Child Custody Mediation Can Help You Win Child Custody
Many divorcing parents use mediation to work through their child custody case. Oftentimes, these parents leave mediation, are very happy with their child custody arrangement, and feel like they have won in their custody situation. Since no parent wants to lose in child custody, here are three ways that mediation can help you win.
1. Mediation allows you to be in on the decisions. With mediation, you and your former spouse sit down with a neutral third party and work out your custody agreement. By the time you are done with mediation, you should have a plan that is acceptable to both parents. You are able to give input during the entire process and you can make sure that the issues that are important to you are taken care of. This is a win in child custody because you get a plan that you want. If you leave the decision up to the court, ultimately the judge makes the final decision. The judge may adopt what you suggest–but there is a chance that your plan won’t be accepted. You have less direct control if you leave your custody agreement up to the courts.
2. It’s easier on you and the children. Let’s face it, child custody cases can be long and difficult on parents and children. It can be hard for the parents to come to an agreement, and it is difficult for children to watch their parents fight and to not have a stable schedule. Mediation can take a lot of fighting out of the custody case–and that helps everyone win. It can also speed the process up. Parents schedule the days when to meet, and they take care of the agreement. It prevents the custody case from dragging on and on. Again, this is a win for everyone.
3. It costs less. You definitely win if you can save some money. There can be staggering legal fees when parents hire lawyers and a custody case lasts forever and goes to court multiple times. There is a fee for mediation, but it is usually a one or two time fee and then you are down. Sometimes there are even mediation services offered by the court. You save a lot of money if you use that service.
You want to win in your child custody situation. And, you want your children to win too. Using mediation can help you make the decisions regarding your custody agreement, is easier on you and your children, and it can save you money. That’s definitely a win.
Find out more about child custody mediation and get more information how to win child custody.
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Sex After Divorce
Thursday, January 20, 2011
The Benefits of Retaining an Attorney During Divorce
Do I need a divorce attorney is a question I hear often and I always attempt to impress on people the importance of retaining a divorce attorney to protect your legal rights during the divorce process. I know however that there are circumstances that make it impossible to hire a divorce attorney.
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Child Custody Laws: What You Need to Know About Visitation
Creating a child visitation schedule is a lot of work. It can be exhausting and stressful to come up with the arrangement that dictates when your child spends time with each parent. While you’re creating your visitation plan, it is essential that you know the laws that surround child visitation. Knowing the laws can save you time and hassle that would come when you have to change something to be in accordance with the law. It also helps you prevent problems down the road because you know about the laws sooner and can do something before your agreement becomes a court order. Here are three visitation laws that are vital to your custody agreement.
1. Both parents have an equal right to see the child. Every state has the basic law that both parents have equal rights to the children. This obviously changes if there is proof of abuse or harm to the child. You need to realize that your ex has a legal right to see the children–and you have that right as well. Unless you can prove that your former spouse is harmful for the kids, it is unlikely that the court won’t let them visit the child. And, don’t ever let your former spouse say that you can’t see the kids. Instead of trying to block out the other parent, come up with a schedule that allows for visitation.
2. If you and your former spouse can’t agree on visitation, the court decides. Thus, it is in your best interest to try, if at all possible, to work out something with your ex because the court could come up with something you don’t like. If you take control of the situation and create your own visitation schedule with the terms and conditions that meet your needs then you will be much more satisfied with the custody arrangement. If you and the child’s other parent simple can’t agree, be prepared to present your case to court. Show the court that the visitation plan you propose is in the child’s best interest.
3. Only the court order is legally binding. This means that anything you want in your custody agreement has to be in the court order. Think about this and decide what provisions and stipulations you want in your agreement. Perhaps you always want to know the other parent’s address. Write that down as a provision. Maybe you’d like a stipulation that says no girlfriends or boyfriends may spend the night when your child is visiting. Or, maybe you’d like a provision that says the other parent receives information about people who will live or spend time with the children. All of this is common information that parents want. But, if it isn’t in the court order, your former spouse doesn’t have to give you the information. Think ahead to any problems or situations that may come up and add in appropriate provisions to your agreement. This will save you heartache and hassle in the long run.
It’s important that you understand the laws about visitation so that you aren’t unpleasantly caught off guard in your custody situation. Remember that both parents have the right to see the children. Accept this and come up with a visitation schedule that works for you and the child’s other parent. And, be sure that you put anything you want legally binding in the court order. That way you have more of a say about what goes on in your child’s life. And, you can feel more at peace knowing that your custody agreement is working for you and not against you.
Learn more about child custody laws in your state and get more information about child visitation.
Article Source: Child Custody Laws: What You Need to Know About Visitation
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Wednesday, January 19, 2011
Toxic Ex Spouse
WHY WOULD AN ATTORNEY ADVERTISE?
The simple answer to this question is, that law firms that advertise do not rely upon repeat business or referrals from satisfied clients. Instead they rely on advertisements on television, phone books, and on taxi cabs in hopes that random new clients happen to call after seeing the advertisement. If a law firm must continually advertise in order to get new business, it may be becuase they have not built up a practice of satisfied clients. At Scott and Fenderson we have been serving Florida Families since 1997 and have served several thousand former clients. Our new business comes from referrals by current clients, former clients, and their friends and family. Back in 1997 when Scott and Fenderson PA was first established, we found it necessary to advertise in order to obtain new clients, however, after thirteen years as a law firm, we have established a large client base, and no longer need to advertise in order to obtain new clients. We want to express our thanks to all of our friends, clients, and former clients for your continued confidence and support over the past thirteen years. Our aim is to have satisfied clients that want to come back or refer their family and friends.
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Tuesday, January 18, 2011
Family Court: How to Prepare for Your Child Custody Case
How confident do you feel about your upcoming family court date? Are you ready to walk in and present a well prepared and documented child custody agreement to the judge? Or are you nervous and not quite sure what to expect? The key to feeling confident about appearing in family and custody court is preparation. If you are prepared, you don’t need to worry. That preparation will shine through in the courtroom and the judge will be more likely to incorporate your custody plan. Here are three suggestions for preparing for the big day.
1. Be on your best behavior. The court is going to discuss how you’ve been behaving during your custody situation. If you are uncooperative and not communicating with your spouse about what you’re doing with the children it makes you look bad. It is normal to feel some anger and resentment at your ex spouse–but you shouldn’t take out that anger with the child custody issues.
Communicate with your spouse and let them know when you’ll be bringing the kids back, or dropping them off, or picking them up. And, follow through on what you say. If your spouse has multiple incidences of you saying one thing about the kids and doing another they will bring it up–and the judge won’t look on that favorably. Cooperate with your spouse, support your kids, and be reliable.
2. Come up with a well thought out plan. The judge in family and custody court will be impressed if you have a well thought out plan. Come up with the custody agreement that you’d like the court to accept. Make your agreement fair and in the best interest of the child. Divide the holidays equally between you and your spouse, come up with the basic schedule of custody, and decide how you will make joint, or shared, custody work if that is what you want.
You should also think through any additional provisions that you want in your custody agreement. Do you want to be informed if your ex gets your child a passport? Do you want to ban negative talk about the other parent around the child? Put it in the agreement. The fact that you spent so much time creating your custom agreement shows the court that you are putting your child as your first priority.
If you want some help creating your custody agreement, you may want to look into purchasing some child custody software. There are some programs out there that let you easily create and print a calendar, and also allow you print out your agreement with any provisions you want.
3. Bring documents. Once you’ve created your child custody agreement, print the documents and bring multiple copies to court. You will be able to impress the judge when you hand him/her a copy of the year long calendar you created, plus a typed list of provisions, and a calculated time share. This shows that you really did your homework and it will also help you to present your agreement. If you are using a child custody software to help you prepare your documents you should be able to print multiple copies with no problems.
You have enough to stress about without the additional worry of appearing in family court for your child custody. Work hard before and get prepared so that your day in court goes smoothly and stress-free.
Learn more about preparing for child custody court and creating child custody agreements.
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Monday, January 17, 2011
How Will Child Support Affect Your Taxes?
If you pay or receive child support, the Internal Revenue Service has a set of rules to control the deductions and exemptions that you are allowed because of the payment or receipt of the child support. The terms of your divorce settlement will determine how child support will affect your taxes. It is very important to hire an experienced family law attorney who is familiar with the long-term implications of any child support agreement you come to during the divorce process.
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Divorce: The Step Parent You Hate Needs To Be Friends With Your Child
Adjusting to life after divorce can be especially challenging when there are children. Parents do not always feel comfortable with the new lover in their ex’s life. Some of their concerns may be unreasonable, and a failure to move on after the marriage is ended. However, some concerns are legitimate, and based on fear of the new person’s potential attitudes towards the ex and her kids.
Too often, the new lover is well aware that he is a replacement for the ex. Consequently, he is defensive and territorial about his place in his lover’s life. He is likely to insert himself in the lover’s interaction with her ex, and add to what is already a tense parenting relationship.
When the parents can’t deal with each other well, several things can happen. Kids can pit their parents against each other by lying or exaggerating about occurrences in their respective homes. Kids can easily sense any resentment brought on by the new lover, and use it to gain their other parent’s sympathy to meet their own ends. When the parents stop communicating with each other, their ability to parent effectively suffers.
The new person may seem more liberal and understanding to the child. After all, she is trying to become friends, and is likely to present herself as less authoritarian then the child’s other parent. In turn, the other parent feels left out in the cold, and helpless to control the child’s actions and attitudes. Teenagers, who already feel tied down and misunderstood are most vulnerable to any adult attempts to win their favor in this way.
Thus, it is important that the parents, and their new friends and lovers take care to understand the dynamics of their situation, and work together to keep the adults in control. These tips should help.
1. All of the adults must demand to be treated with courtesy and respect. Children should understand that bad manners are unacceptable, no matter how they feel towards the adult in question. This is not an invitation to physical violence on the adult’s part. However, stern reminders and firm consequences should result when the child is rude, mean or to use the common phrase, “snotty”. The child may not like being forced to be polite, but if the message is consistent, and the rewards for courtesy are greater than those for bad behavior, he will eventually accept the rules and be comfortable abiding by them.
2. The adults should enforce the child’s obligation to be courteous to each other, no matter how they actually feel. You may not like your partner’s new honey, and she may wish you’d get hit by a truck. However, using your kids to make this point is just cruel and stupid. It is never good for a child to feel unwelcome in his parent’s home.
If your son or daughter visits his other parent with the idea that he is being disloyal to you by being kind to the lover of the other, he will be under a lot of stress, and will not be as able to maintain a positive bond with the other parent. His visits will be viewed as necessary but dreadful interludes instead of the joyful, healthy occasions and times to share that they should be. It may be hard to keep your real feelings about your ex’s lover to yourself, but your child should feel that it is all right to get to know the new person, and be comfortable making friends with him.
3. The significant other should never have to discipline the child. He does not have to tolerate rude or nasty behavior, and has the right to respond accordingly. However, decisions and actions regarding the child’s schooling, friendships, or responsibilities, either in the home, school or church are best left to his parents. The parent and her partner should discuss their expectations privately, and the parent should enforce the rules decided upon. The new partner should not have to rear the child, and there will be much less family tension if he is not forced to do so.
If the adults handle the situation in a mature and responsible manner, the family dynamics will change when a new lover enters the picture, but the change does not have to be traumatic for the children. Kids must be free to develop their own relationships with adults, as long as their parents are there to protect them from being victims. They should be encouraged to take each person on her own merits, including the new lovers of parents the child would prefer to have to himself. He is more likely to be a welcome addition to the new adult’s life if he is courteous, respectful and cooperative, than he will be if he acts suspicious and hostile. It may be tempting to encourage a child to make the life of the ex who has hurt you help you pay her back by being difficult and unpleasant, but the child will suffer more than your spouse will if his attitude is bitter rather than open.
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Sunday, January 16, 2011
Collaborative Divorce
Saturday, January 15, 2011
How do You Define Cheating?
Friday, January 14, 2011
Warning: Your Spouse May be Hiding Money During Your Divorce!
Hiding money (or other assets) during a divorce is illegal and unethical. Never the less it’s much more common than you think. Your spouse may be trying to lower child support and/or alimony payments by hiding assets? Learn to identify the signs and uncover the hidden assets to protect you and your children. Get a FREE report revealing 5 common tactics commonly used to hide assets. Visit Divorce Ammo to get your FREE report now.
Fear of Dependency
Thursday, January 13, 2011
Do it Yourself Divorce
Wednesday, January 12, 2011
Temporary Court Orders
Tuesday, January 11, 2011
Monday, January 10, 2011
Which is More Harmful, Feminism or a Dysfunctional Family Court System?
Recently I've been hearing from angry men. Men who blame feminism for their problems and the reason for the unfair treatment men get in divorce court. I'm told via email how much women resent men, how they belittle men, degrade men and use men.
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Cell Phones And Cheating
Sunday, January 9, 2011
Child Custody Software: How to Make Shared Parenting Easier
How do you start to put your life back together after a divorce? Divorce changes every aspect of life, and for some people the thought of going forward can be completely overwhelming. After a divorce you have to handle the emotional and personal issues, as well as the practical day-to-day details that need to be taken care of. Suddenly you are responsible for the things that your ex-spouse used to help with. Maybe he took care of the car maintenance. Or she took care of scheduling the lawn care. It can be a hard adjustment to suddenly doing everything on your own.
Being a divorced parent complicates this to an even greater degree. Now you have to come up with a child custody schedule–and it has to be a visitation schedule that both you and your ex agree on, plus a schedule that works with your child. You want to make things easier for your child by having a stable schedule as quickly as possible. This way the child can be reassured of the love of each parent and have an easier time adjusting. For this reason, many parents are using child custody software to help them make their child custody and child visitation schedules.
Child custody software is one way divorced parents can simplify their lives. It makes it extremely easy to sit down at the computer and come up with several child custody calendars that can be presented to an ex spouse or the court. Using the computer makes it easy to make calendars for a year or more and to easily see where the visitation schedule needs to be changed for special events. And, if the ex-spouse wants a few changes, it makes it easy to incorporate those changes. Before child custody software, making child custody schedules was time consuming and complicated. A parent had to sit down and manually make a calendar–and if there were any changes or mistakes, the whole process had to begin again.
Parents who use a child custody software can also save a lot of money. Rather than having their attorney take the time to come up with several child visitation plans and the parent be billed for the time, the parent can instead take in their own plans and show them to the attorney. Who wants to pay for all those extra hours of time when you could easily do it on your own, and come up with your own custom child custody calendar?
Depending on what child custody software you purchase, there can be other benefits as well. An important feature to look for is a software that tracks how much percentage time each parent has with the child. This makes is convenient for the parent as they are coming with the child custody calendar to see how much time the child is spending with each parent. Thus the parents can make a fair arrangement that will have less contention about child visitation–and this is good for everyone involved. It is also nice to have the percentages tracked because that will enable the courts to figure out the proper child support payments.
Divorced parents should be looking for any possible way to simplify their lives. Every little thing that makes it easier for them should be used. Child custody software is definitely a way they can make one part of their life stable and easy to manage.
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Article Source: Child Custody Software: How to Make Shared Parenting Easier
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Saturday, January 8, 2011
The Autism Vaccine Hoax - Wall Street Journal Jan 8, 2011
The Wallstreet Journal Jan 8, 2011
A tragic scare campaign is exposed as 'fraud
Twelve years late, the media and medical community may finally be digging a grave for one of the more damaging medical scares in history. We're speaking of the vaccines-cause-autism panic, the burial of which cannot come too soon.
The British Medical Journal this week published an article and editorial explaining that the 1998 study that provoked the vaccine scare was an "elaborate fraud." That study, published in the (once) respected journal "The Lancet," was by British doctor Andrew Wakefield and other researchers, who claimed that the widely used measles, mumps and rubella vaccine was linked to autism. Around the same time, U.S. parents and opportunistic lawyers latched on to a related theory that vaccination shots containing a mercury compound called thimerosal caused autism.
Despite broad evidence even in the 1990s that these claims were unfounded, the medical community was slow to push back. Nervous public-health groups inspired a panic by rushing to get thimerosal out of vaccines. The Lancet stuck by its article, the media sensationalized the story, and Congress joined the cause celebre. Maine Senators Olympia Snowe and Susan Collins went so far as to kill a vaccine liability provision so that parents could bring thimerosal suits. Indiana Republican Dan Burton was especially irresponsible in raising public fears.
By 2004, Britain's immunization rates had dropped to a low of 80%; the rates have recovered only slightly. The Centers for Disease Control says that in the U.S. 40% of parents have delayed or declined at least one of their children's shots. This has led to the needless re-emergence of once-conquered diseases.
Measles is now endemic in England and Wales. California recently suffered a whooping cough outbreak that sickened 7,800 people and killed 10 babies. As Paul Offit, the chief of infectious diseases at the Children's Hospital of Philadelphia and one of the few who stood up against the autism scare, writes in his new book "Deadly Choices," the victims of this "war on science" are children.
Researchers have all the while continued to churn out studies disproving the vaccine-autism link. Vaccine courts have struck down thimerosal claims. Yet it is only recently that professional journals and media have rediscovered a responsibility gene.
It took the Lancet until last year to offer a full retraction of the 1998 study, and that came only after Britain's medical regulator had ruled that Mr. Wakefield had acted "dishonestly and irresponsibly." The British Medical Journal's article is the first in-depth look at Mr. Wakefield's abuses. By journalist Brian Deer—who has investigated Mr. Wakefield for years—the article reports that the doctor grossly misrepresented the cases of 12 children to support his theory, and that he worked with plaintiffs attorneys to exploit the panic for financial gain.
This is a start, but the health community and media have a long way to go to restore public trust in immunizations. They also bear some responsibility for the dollars that have been diverted from research into finding the real causes of the terrible affliction that is autism. Let's hope they now broadcast the vaccine truth as much as they encouraged the vaccine panic.
Original: Scott and Fenderson Law Blog
Divorce Process
Friday, January 7, 2011
Thursday, January 6, 2011
Guidance and Advice for Women Going Through a Divorce
Divorce is usually a one-sided decision which catches a wife off guard. Very rarely do couples sit down and come to the decision to end their marriage together. In most situations a wife is left to struggle with the consequences of her husband's decision to file for a divorce. It isn't easy to deal with the admission by a husband that he no longer wants to be in the marriage.
...Wednesday, January 5, 2011
Child Custody and Visitation Schedule: Resources That Can Help You
What is the best way to set up a child custody and visitation schedule? What are the options for visitation times? What are the important elements of a visitation arrangement? A newly divorced parent faces these questions and hundreds more like them. It can be overwhelming and frustrating even in the best circumstances–and usually the circumstances surrounding custody aren’t the best. However, the good news is that it is possible to create a child custody schedule that works for your situation. The real key to doing this is finding the right resources to help you create it. Here are some of the resources that can help you.
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Many divorced parents hire an attorney to help them create their visitation agreement and schedule. Attorneys are useful because they know the laws and have a lot of experience handling custody cases. However, attorneys are also very expensive and many parents simply do not have the money to hire one. You can look into receiving aid from the court if you can’t afford an attorney, and some attorneys offer advice at certain times for less money. You can usually have an initial consultation with an attorney to find out if you would want to hire him/her.
Another resource you can look into is mediation. Some courts offer free mediation and you can also find private custody mediation. In mediation you and the child’s other parent will sit down and create a visitation schedule with a neutral third party. This can help you work out some of the issues with your situation. Parents who are not getting along generally find mediation to be helpful.
There are also many software programs that you can purchase that can help you create a custody agreement and schedule. Many times these programs allow you to create a calendar with both parent’s time with the child. This can make it very easy to create a schedule on your own, and then you just print out the calendar. Be sure to shop around for the right software program for you. Make sure that it allows you to easily create a schedule and do other things to enhance your custody agreement. It might be useful to download a free trial of a program before you purchase it–that way you know it will do what you want.
The internet is a common, easily accessible resource. You can look up information about laws in your state, get the custody forms and papers that you need (this is only offered in some states) and you can look for online forums where you can ask questions and discuss issues with other divorced parents. There are also many local support groups about custody and visitation that may be beneficial to you. Ask around at your community center, public library and at the courthouse.
Using these resources can help you make the agreement that is best for you. It can also take away some of the stress to know that there is help available, and to know where to access that help. Keep searching until you get what you need. It will pay off in the end when you have the perfect custody schedule.
Learn more about creating your perfect child custody schedule and get more information about child visitation.
Article Source: Child Custody and Visitation Schedule: Resources That Can Help You
Tuesday, January 4, 2011
Child Custody Mediation and Your Custody Order
Child custody mediation is when both parents sit down with a mediator and create a parenting plan that they both agree on. Once they agree on their parenting plan, they take it to court and it becomes the custody order. The custody order simply makes the parenting plan a legal agreement, so if either parent violates it, there are legal ramifications.
Many states now require parents who cannot agree on custody issues to go to mediation before they go to court. If mediation works (and there is a high success rate) then it makes it easier for the court to come up with the custody order, both parents are more satisfied with the order, and there will be fewer changes later on. If you and your child’s other parent try mediation, here are three things you can do to make it successful.
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1. Be prepared. Before you go to mediation, do your homework. Be familiar with various types of visitation schedules and custody arrangements. Create a few calendars with different schedules to show the mediator and your former spouse what you’d like.
Also, think about and write down any provisions and stipulations you’d like to add to your parenting plan. Perhaps you’d like a provision that states that both parents talk about what extra curricular activities the child will be involved in. Or that a parent must notify the other parent within a certain amount of days about a new address or telephone number. Think about things that are important to you. Write them down so you don’t forget to talk about them.
2. Be flexible. Go to mediation with you mind open to different solutions. Come with several ideas of how to make a visitation schedule–not with just one. Listen to your former spouse and the mediator instead of only focusing on what you want. If you are flexible with the solution, you will most likely find one. There are many ways to make a parenting plan work–and if both parents contribute a lot of ideas, they are sure to find one for their situation. Problems come up when one parent is obstinate and refuses to compromise on any issues. This makes the other parent more stubborn, and then they can’t reach an agreement.
3. Focus on the children. When you go to mediation, only talk about the issues that relate to the kids. Don’t bring up any other divorce issues or problems between the parents. Think of the meeting as a business meeting–with the objective of finding a parenting plan that is the best for the children. Don’t focus on your personal parenting agenda–always remember that you want to do what is in the best interest of the children.
Mediation can be a great way to get a child custody order that makes everyone happy. This is the best thing for the children because then they can relax and enjoy the time they have with both parents without worrying about conflict and fighting. It’s also good for the parents because they can stop worrying about the stress of the agreement, and just focus on being parents.
Find out more about child custody mediation and get more information about child custody orders.
Article Source: Child Custody Mediation and Your Custody Order
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Monday, January 3, 2011
How to Get Divorced E-Course
The legal, financial and emotional aspects of divorce make the divorce process very stressful. Not only will you find it necessary to become familiar with the laws of your state pertaining to divorce, you will need to hold yourself together emotionally and physically. This free 4-week e-course will teach you knowledge about the legal, financial and emotional aspects of divorce and enable you to move on to a healthy post-divorce life. Each lesson is centered on a different aspect of the divorce process with information about how to navigate each phase you will go through from the beginning of the divorce process to the end.
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Sunday, January 2, 2011
The Role Of A Child Custody Investigator
As custody cases become more and more competitive, parents have begun seeking every available opportunity to gain an advantage on their competition. This can involve multiple strategies, with some being more secretive than others. Hiring a child custody investigator is one way to build evidence against the other parent without them knowing. Since custody hearings take a number of different factors into consideration before making a decision, an investigator can influence the perception of the court across many levels.
Contrary to popular belief, child custody investigators are not just private detectives hired by those who can afford their exorbitant fees. The court system also employs investigators to provide them with a better insight into the daily routines and behaviors of both parents. Since the judge is unlikely to witness either parent’s activities outside of the court room, it has become more common for the court to assign an independent party to monitor these things. For that reason it is important for anyone facing a custody hearing to become aware of the role that an investigator plays, and how it may affect the outcome of the case.
The goal of an investigator is to measure the tendencies of each parent while interacting with their child. They look for how the parent relates with the child and what activities they participate in while together. Ideally, the parent would offer enriching activities that promote the social and educational growth of their youngster. It is also observed whether or not the child enjoys these activities. Beyond this, the custody investigator is also looking for any signs of physical or mental abuse that may be occurring. Thus, they are making sure the child has a safe and healthy environment in which they can thrive.
Because a child custody investigator is hired to provide evidence to the court system, their work is typically secretive and very thorough. They may utilize many of the same tools and tactics that are commonly found in detective work. Video surveillance, phone tapping, and constant observation are just some of the ways they collect evidence. In a perfect world, their strategies are unbiased and used only to paint an accurate picture of the parental interaction levels. However, in cases where the investigator is hired privately, there is more pressure on them to produce incriminating evidence against the other party. This can be a tough obstacle for the opposition to face, making it important that they identify when they are being watched.
Custody battles have continued to grow more aggressive over recent years. Not only have parents become more willing to experiment with unorthodox tactics to build their cases, but the court system has also grown more stringent in their approach. This combination has left parents on both sides very little room for error. Because of the pressure surrounding these cases, the use of child custody investigators has risen considerably. At one time they were only used by those who afford to hire them privately, but now the courts are beginning to utilize their services as well. Since the evidence provided by them is so heavily weighted by the custody judge, it is vital for parents to recognize the power that an investigator can have over their case.
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Article Source: The Role Of A Child Custody Investigator
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